If your reading this, chances are that you’ve been ghosted or are ghosting someone. Maybe you are doing it right now. But for those who are lucky enough not to know what ghosting is:
Ghosting is breaking off a relationship by ceasing all communication and contact with the former partner without any apparent warning or justification, as well as ignoring the former partner’s attempts to reach out or communicate. -Wikipedia
Yep. Poof! They’re just gone. No explanation, no warning, just gone. Not sh*ts given. It’s pretty sad, if you ask me. What happened to romance? Heck, what happened to honesty? If you are going to invest your time and energy in someone, whether it’s a few weeks or months have the decency to be open and honest. If you are not feeling someone, tell them. I mean, who came up with this “ghosting” anyways?
Obviously, someone woke up one day and decided that they are just not going to reply to the person they are (well, were) talking too and figured they will just disappear and cut out all contact, so the other person will just forget they existed and apparently, it became the new era of dating. The days of romancing someone seem to be long gone. But, it’s not just in romantic relationships, even friends are ghosting people these days. One day your besties, hitting up the clubs together, grabbing brunch and sending hilarious memes to each other all day to not even existing in either’s lives at all, and both men and women are doing it each and every day. Why? Who knows? But I have narrowed it down to a few reasons, or types of “Ghosters” as I see it.
- The Jerk: The ghoster is just a jerk who is sleeping around and doesn’t have the time to even care about the ghostee. I tend to think this is the main reason ghosting exists, mainly because chivalry is dead, and men and women don’t acknowledge other’s feelings anymore. AKA: selfish, selfish, selfish.
- The Broken-Hearted: This ghoster is in denial of their previous relationship ending, so they try to move on, start seeing other people and finally break down. They shut out all contact of the people they were seeing to make themselves feel better. Not going to lie, I’ve totally been this ghoster in the past….sorry.
- The Anxious One: Maybe, just maybe this ghoster liked you, like really liked you but they are too anxious to pursue a relationship at this time, or maybe they just want to slow down a bit and keep things how they are. But instead of opening up about their feelings, they decide ghosting is the best option. Obviously.
Now, I’m sure there are many other reasons why someone chooses to ghost another, so we can’t really judge here, and just because someone ghosts you doesn’t necessarily mean they are a bad person. They just may simply be going through something and it’s easier for them to cut you out. Of course it’s going to hurt. Especially if you invested your time and energy into this person and were actually falling for them. We have all been there, trust me. So, here is what we do, it’s pretty much our only option, just smile and move on, because at the end of the day, if someone wants to be in your life, they will be, no questions asked. Just love yourself, love your life and treat others how you want to be treated, the rest will fall into place.